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  1. Hear hear. I've had problems too. My mental health took a genuine bashing over ten years or so. Mainly due to relationship choices. The last one amounting to four years of domestic abuse. Admitting that, as a man, I found hard. In fact it only really came out during proper counselling. I started that just over two years ago and I've come a long way. Still go once a month, in fact I'm going tomorrow morning. If anything, now, I worry I'm too open. But it's a much better feeling than bottling it up. There can never be too much stuff like this. Awareness is everything. I still hear comments at work made such as "mental health is a load of made up rubbish. It's an excuse."
    6 points
  2. I think men find it harder to talk about depression and suicide for fear of just being told to "man up", even by their own friends and family. I have been in some bad places over the years, (I am doing much better over the last 5 years or so) and have been worried about talking for that reason and when I have tried to talk about it the people that don't just assume you are weak just don't know what to say to you. This is a problem that needs to be de-stigmatised and talked about more so fair play to Colin and David for speaking out. I have lost a few friends over the years to suicide and only in the last week or 2 a good friend at work has lost 2 close friends and a cousin. Something needs to change. Even clicking post on this message took some extra thinking time.
    6 points
  3. Admiration to both you and WV for your strength in posting your feelings. My kids work as a carer for Mencap, a student support officer and a trainee social worker. I'm so proud of them all doing work to help others. Love and support are the key things in our world if we want to live humanely. Wish you both the best.
    4 points
  4. Well done for sharing 🙂 I totally agree that it's sooo difficult to share feelings of vulnerability. We don't generally possess the language or the tools to do so, and it's massively scary opening up.. More concerning is that we have little idea how to respond. We largely live in a world where everyone hides how they really feel. Banter, hostility and being tough all provide enormous barriers to genuine openness. Whilst many speak about change, few know how to go about it. It's in our behaviours that we are trapped. Changing those behaviours, listening, being open and genuine, allowing space. Taking people seriously is critical. Sharing your feelings is very scary when you risk being dismissed. We live in a world of rush. No one has the time. I wish I had the answers, but there are always more questions.
    3 points
  5. Do people actually realise that his first red card was in a friendly that meant absolutely nothing, for one, and that it shouldn't even have been a sending off? I don't recall people blaming Stone for the penalty against Sunderland, given that it clearly shouldn't have been a penalty, and holding it against him like this?
    3 points
  6. I know where you are coming from, it is frustrating because we all know what he is capable of. He is a unit, he is fast and he has the ability to change the game in an instant. Sometimes when it isn't going for a player, they are better off running their socks off, chasing every ball down and firing the crowd up - I would love to see Rodders do this more, he would frighten the opposition to death and I think that DC would like him to do that too as he has effectively said so much before. I don't think that he is going into the matches with a 'cant be bothered' attitude, I think he just has a languid / laid back style - but if he could change that (Iearn from Proctor who is everywhere chasing down and harrying defenders) he could be absolute dynamite.
    3 points
  7. Brown was a good keeper for 1-2 years but I think the fact he was a nice bloke helped him a lot in terms of fan's opinion. Never has an unproven axiom taken hold in the fanbase as strongly as 'Scott Brown is the best keeper in the league'. No idea where that notion came from and why everyone believed it.
    3 points
  8. Most of our support are just plain negative . They should look at the bigger picture we have a talented bunch of players and I'm reading we losing to nil . We will score ,I hope they are silenced tomorrow ,we beat ourselves last week with our sloppiness I expect a much better defensive performance tomorrow and to be honest if we play to win there's no reason why we cannot ,go forwards Vale and do what you being doing in games but not getting rewarded for . Couldn't care less about this bogey side nonsense let's not hide behind excuses let's go there to win UTV
    2 points
  9. It was her own counselling that inspired my eldest daughter to become a support officer. It also was massively helpful to my wife after double bereavement. To quote a wise man," no man is an island,entire of itself". Shared experience is a true bond-why else do we all communicate on this excellent website.
    2 points
  10. You should be very proud Aguar61 People like them have helped me no end and I'll be forever grateful for that. I'm good now, but I can't see a time when I don't want to attend counselling. I pay decent money for it but I see it as essential. Would absolutely recommend to anyone.
    2 points
  11. We have a team largely built up of inconsistent second division players. If as last week a large proportion were not at it then we are in trouble. If all are firing then we will be OK we are just not good enough to carry anyone. Let’s hope last week was a blip and we can be a bit more up for it Saturday, after many disappointments at Swindon I would love to give them a going over. After all Swindon’s problems you have to give them respect for how well they have done so far. Come on Vale let’s get at them for 90 mins plus and bring home the three points.
    2 points
  12. Sums up the experience of us Vale fans so succinctly 😁👍
    2 points
  13. Apparently Clarke has said that Rodney has Championship/Premier League clubs watching him. He says he didn't have a good game on Saturday but there's a reason he's being scouted. No reason to lie. It's inevitable that a player of 23 with his game-changing abilities will be getting looked after scoring 11 open play goals for a pretty poor team last year. Alas; he fell over on Saturday and needs a 50 post thread discussing his merits.
    2 points
  14. Both Colin and David's videos are devastating. Heartbreaking to see them both choke up.
    2 points
  15. Incredibly candid and powerful videos. Full credit to both men in pushing the message.
    2 points
  16. It would be interesting to compare the "Covolan is horrendous, bring back Brown" muppets on the Wonder of you against the posts they were making crucifying Brown after the Cheltenham debacle.
    2 points
  17. Hope you are right and I'm wrong...time will show the wiser.....
    1 point
  18. I'm so pleased there are people who think we'll lose. I'm very uncomfortable with feeling hopeful. It usually means we get beaten, and disappoint in the process by being poor. I just have a hunch. We'll see...
    1 point
  19. Is he that clever? Or subtle?
    1 point
  20. Maybe he meant the fans
    1 point
  21. Rodney will score tomorrow.
    1 point
  22. My son is unable to go tomorrow due to illness . He's got an 18-21 ticket. Free to first person who posts that they want it. Can swap numbers and I'll meet you outside the turnstile. Free to a good home SVA
    1 point
  23. Looking forwards to this . After just listening to Dcs press conference I believe him that's how I feel watching this new team only matter of time before the wins start coming regularly in my opinion . Enjoy the game travelling Valiants . Team well who knows wish I knew it but lets hope Worrall makes it and if he doesn't then with that marvellous switch of ball we do maybe his replacement can obtain the shirt for a while if he impresses whoever it may be DCs knows the rest of us will have to wait and see till 14.00 tomoz
    1 point
  24. I suspect that a lot of it may be directed towards DC and his tactics? He's still very much Marmite for some people who are 40 years loyal fans. Just a thought.
    1 point
  25. If governments told people that if they stood on one leg and put a patch over one eye I'm convinced many would do it and there would be a 'model' to back it up. There is no real world evidence that masks make any more than a negligible difference, even the government has admitted it was to give people reassurance. In fact, many places with the strongest mask mandate have done the worst! But no, we must follow 'the science '.
    1 point
  26. Im not trying to justify what is acceptable or tell people what is acceptable. Im offering reasons why/how people justify it to themselves. It's not an issue to me, I don't do it, I don't care if others do. Whether they should is up to the individual to decide. As for taking the knee....... is it a team decision or the players making individual choices?..... I think some boo the action not the team, some boo for other reasons and some don't know why they are booing. The only people who know why are the people who do it. As a PS...... booing isn't new, it happened in the 50s, 60s, 70s etc etc..... it's not something that has crept in.
    1 point
  27. Can I just say. What an immense amount of bravery that video today took from Colin, I certainly chocked up watching it. I'm so sorry for his loss, and so touched by that video the club put out today. Thank you Colin for everything you do for Port Vale. Ps. If anyone, and I mean anyone is struggling, please dm me
    1 point
  28. With defending like against Rochdale we might as well stick a mop with googly eyes in the net, as we won’t be winning anyway. Sort the defence out, give the keeper a chance.
    1 point
  29. I very much like Devante. He potentially has the full package--build, strength and speed. With additional experience and, assuming he has the tough mentality required, I believe he can really go places. However, I'd like Devante to score a hatful more goals during his current contract with PV before leaving for any higher level club!
    1 point
  30. Darrell also made a big point of the fact that he is a confidence player and needs an arm around his shoulder. Hence booing isn't going to do him any good (sorry to conflate two topics I'm getting obsessed) 😂
    1 point
  31. Maybe we need to clear out the deadwood and start again...
    1 point
  32. Brilliant, Rodney being jeered is actually Clarke's fault.
    1 point
  33. Nothing. It's the same as many of the other measures. Governments have got to be seen to be doing 'something ', that's why we've had 18 months of non sensical rules. Most people have just not even asked any questions as to whether these things make any difference.
    1 point
  34. And...he's not Scott Brown, who has never aged and whose ability never waned...apparently?
    1 point
  35. I remember the slow handclap. I thought it was because of excessive time-wasting by the opposition? Or, in protest at the numerous shocking referee decisions we had to suffer (nothing changes!); or, i suppose, it might have been that Vale were very slow to introduce subs to try to change the dynamics of the game? But, i think that was less than the other 2 reasons? Contrary to some on here: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjTwLC56PLyAhXzoFwKHWxbC5oQFnoECCgQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fdictionary.cambridge.org%2Fdictionary%2Fenglish%2Fsupport&usg=AOvVaw2x9GF5Y7Wch0_yXuticnkG "to give encouragement and approval to someone or something because you want the person or thing to succeed:" Yes - I've booed Vale teams before...but only after the game, and never aimed at just one player - it's a team game!
    1 point
  36. Problem Lucas has is he seems to dive even when there's little chance he gets to the shot. It makes it look worse. If he's rooted for either goal no one bats an eyelid. It's an unmarked bottom corner header for the first and a crashing header from 8 yards out for the second. He dives for both and, inevitably, doesn't get there. Unfortunately his 2 games of madness will be held against him for a long time by some fans.
    1 point
  37. It's all there in plain sight but people have been indoctrinated so much in the 'deadly virus ' that you simply can't make them even consider the alternative. It's like a cult. No matter how many times you show facts or inconsistencies, people have invested their lives in the last 18 months in 'staying safe ' , even if the reality is they are highly unlikely to encounter any danger. The psychological manipulators have been brilliant in instigating an existential threat, a plague like end of days scenario that unfortunately will take a long time for many people to come around to the fact that they're not in danger. Some people will also not want to be made to look a fool. They've invested so much in the official narrative, the masks, the hand gunk, the one way systems and all the other pointless theatre, that to turn around and admit it was all a bit silly is a step too far.
    1 point
  38. Whilst I agree that the data should be much more transparent, I fundamentally disagree that people who refuse the vaccine should not be treated. I think that's a dreadful thing to wish upon anybody based on personal medical choice. When have we ever segregated people before based on their personal medical choices? Should we also then preclude medical treatment for those who have not had a TB jab or a polio vaccine or MMR? I just think this is a terrible precedent. The vaccine protects you and you alone, the fact that you can still get Covid and pass it on makes a vaccine passport completely useless. You could still go to a football match with Covid and spread it about the place but as long as you've had 2 jabs then that's fine. It makes no sense!It should be up to each individual to make their own decision and let's face it, these vaccines have been rushed with minimal testing using new techniques and in some cases deadly side effects, you can understand people's reticence when Covid isn't the plague and you'd have to be massively, massively unlucky to die from it.
    1 point
  39. Rodney's first touch is often like a pass and so it should come as no surprise to anyone. But his overall performance was abysmal. None more so than him constantly getting knocked off the ball by players who simply wanted it far more than he did on the day. Poor technique is one thing. But a guy his size getting knocked off it time and time again, and not doing anything to win it back... That's pretty shocking in my book.
    1 point
  40. Booing? No. Moaning and groaning? Completely normal.
    1 point
  41. Striker is left unmarked I. The penalty area, heads into the bottom corner and it’s the keeper’s fault???
    1 point
  42. Devante is not the finished product.He needs work on decision making.The coaching staff should be on top of that.Get off his case.Booers stay at home.His goals,not Saint Tom’s,got us into mid table last season.
    1 point
  43. He has been singled out, this thread is a great example of it. And don't twist my words, nobody is saying the the fans are to blame and you know that isn't what is being said, very cute. We are supporters, if a player is having a bad spell we should be supporting and encouraging over the counterproductive singling out at the 6 league games in stage of which he hasn't even played every minute of those 6 league games.
    1 point
  44. If you go with IPTV, it depends on which one you go with. Most of them only have their own customised Android apps for use on things like a Firestick. Others do have simply a link to a streaming service that allows you to use through a PC as well (which I prefer, as it's much faster). You would need to download an IPTV player for this though. Also have to say that IPTV contains illegal content for the most part (premium channels such as Sky Sports etc) and a lot of providers either get shut down for a while, or are unscrupulous and will not think twice about taking your money and disappearing. That said, if you're willing to take the risk, it'll only cost you around £50 for a years subscription and, for that, you'll get thousands of channels from around the world, as well as every ifollow game (if they provide them as part of the service - always check). VPN is very simple. Sign up, download the service, then log in.
    1 point
  45. Less than a minute into his substitute appearance on Saturday, Rodders first touch of the ball is a bad one. Fans are exasperated, some apoplectic with rage. It was all downhill from there. What do people expect when they’re on his case straight away to such a degree? Morons.
    1 point
  46. The guy probably thought he was showing respect by demanding the silence be observed - and in so doing, destroying it. There are some knobs around.
    1 point


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